Sparks fly, hearts race, and everything seems electric in the beginning of a relationship. The irresistible draw, which is frequently referred to as chemistry, might make you feel like you have found "the one." But once the exhilaration subsides, concerns sometimes surface: Is this sufficient? Do we really click? Although chemistry may be the spark, it cannot ensure that love will last. At that point, compatibility enters the picture.

The actual difference between chemistry and compatibility, as well as the relative importance of each in establishing a solid, lasting relationship, was discussed by Kelsey Wonderlin, a licensed therapist and dating coach, in her Instagram post on April 11.

In our relationships, are we prioritizing the wrong things?

"You need both chemistry and compatibility to create a great relationship… but most people are looking for them in the wrong order," the therapist said in the description. "We're taught to chase that instant spark. If it's not there on the first day, we send the 'I didn't feel a connection' message and go.

"But here's what no one tells you: chemistry can grow, but compatibility, not so much," she adds. You run the risk of developing a close bond with someone who is not truly compatible with you when you place too much emphasis on chemistry. Although the emotional rollercoaster can be thrilling, it seldom results in anything lasting.

How do chemistry and compatibility differ?

In her piece, Kelsey clarifies the distinction between chemistry and compatibility:

Chemistry:

There is an immediate attraction that you can't help but dwell on.

Compatibility:

Because your relationship is founded on mutual respect, emotional stability, and reciprocity, you are at peace.

Chemistry:

He has a winning smile, a flirtatious demeanor, and a way of saying the right things.

Compatibility:

He is sincere, speaks his mind, and shares your beliefs and objectives.

Chemistry:

Trauma or intense vulnerability makes you connect quickly.

Compatibility:

Because you are both emotionally accessible, you gradually form emotional intimacy.

"Chemistry can develop, but compatibility seldom can," Kelsey says in conclusion.